Tips to Improve the Relationship with your Domestic Helper

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Your domestic helper is an integral part of your life. Whether it’s help with chores, childcare or looking after an elderly relative, you need someone you can rely on, and someone you can trust. Building a great relationship with your domestic helper is an integral part of building that mutual trust that will ensure everything goes smoothly. Here are some tips for helping to create a good relationship…


Ensure they are comfortable

It’s important that your domestic helper feels comfortable and at home with you. If they feel part of the family, as if your home is their home and that they are appreciated, they’ll treat your home with respect and their job with dedication. So give them plenty of space, a pleasant environment where they can relax on their time off. Think about their space and imagine yourself there. Is there enough storage space? Is the room pleasantly decorated? Think about how comfortable it will feel in different weathers. Is there adequate heating if the weather turns chilly, and plenty of ventilation for hotter periods? Some home comforts can make all the difference, fresh bedding, pictures on the wall, a vase of flowers to create a homely feel. While you want your helper to feel at home, they will also need their privacy, so make sure their space is a pleasant place for them to spend time in and that your family know when it’s important to give them their privacy.


Be clear with your expectations

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You know your own jobs inside out, you have your own way of doing things, and while these may seem obvious to you, they may not be to your helper. Take time to make a list of duties, and show them clearly how you wish these tasks to be performed. It’s easier to learn by example than by reading a list of instructions, so time spent showing how things should be done can be very beneficial. Be patient, it may be a lot to learn all at once, make notes they can refer to if they forget any details. Be clear with how things are going to work. Any household rules, their salary and time off, all need to be confirmed to avoid confusion or conflict.


Encourage good communication

Take time to talk with your domestic helper. Ask how they are, encourage them to let you know if they have a problem. Explain that they mustn’t be worried about asking questions, no matter if they think they may be silly or a repetition of something you’ve already told them. If English isn’t your helpers’ native language, make it clear that you are happy to explain things more simply or in a different way if they can’t quite grasp what you are asking of them.


Rewards go a long way

Rewarding your helper for their hard work is a great way to show them that you appreciate them. When you have a busy life, it’s easy to take your helper for granted, but imagine how busy you would be without them? No matter how much a part of the family they feel, at the end of the day they are doing a job. A bonus, an extra day off, or a treat such as a meal will ensure your helper knows you appreciate everything they do for you.


Bring her into the family

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Making your helper feel part of the family will really help your relationship, so involve them in events even when you don’t really need them in a work capacity. Involve them in family parties and outings, enabling them to get to know you and your family better, in a fun, relaxed environment. It’s also lovely to celebrate your helper’s birthday. They may be far from home and their own family so making a special occasion of their birthday, as you would for the rest of the family, can really make them feel welcome and at ease during their time with you.


A good relationship brings huge rewards

Building a good relationship brings understanding. When you understand someone, and see them as a friend, everything becomes easier. Over time you’ll reap the rewards of time invested in building a good relationship with your domestic helper. Even if your relationship up until now hasn’t been so great, it’s time to make a change and improve the situation for everyone.